Bitch and dating book
The pastor of one America’s largest churches is peeling back the covers on topics that might make some Christians squirm.
Andy Stanley, pastor of the 30,000 member North Point Ministries, addresses a range of issues from human sexuality to pornography in his latest book, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating.
One man I know forlornly pointed out how his ex couldn’t get over the death of her grandmother, five weeks after the fact. When their date becomes not an eager-to-please wimp, but a real-life human being with feelings and insecurities of her own, when things go sour, it’s easier to sling, “Well, you’re mad anyway” than own up to your own shortcomings.
“She was always going on about it,” he sighed, exasperated. Culture often describes women as oversensitive, hysterical and crazy, and this is the latest term that effortlessly dismisses and insults women at the same time.
I have been alone for the past two years and, prior to my last boyfriend (we were together for seven months), for another three years—just like so many women in North America right now.
Naturally, it didn’t take long for the Twittersphere to have their say on Federica: “She’s maaaad! My phone vibrated with similar sentiments: “What a nutcase! Once her date got her age wrong, a dozen internet memes were born. My hunch is that she would make formidable drinking company.
While the broader culture continues to fight over what “sexual morality” means, one thing is certain: Andy Stanley is determined not to sit this one out.
RNS: If these are the new rules for love, sex, and dating, what are some of the old rules that you don’t think work anymore?
The average person would hear that and say, “That’s not true.” But that is the approach most people take to romantic relationships.
The new rule is: don’t assume that just because you feel right, everything is going to be alright.